First. STOP DOING ALL THE THINGS! Let me show you how.
Write down all the things.
You need to write down all the things that need to get done in the house including the mortgage (thanks love and logic for that tip). It may become clear that you are doing a lot of things that may not be even be on your radar. No wonder you are so freaking tired all the time!
Categorize the things.
Monthly, 2x a month, Weekly, Daily. Put everything from your big list into these categories.
Assign the things.
Put names next to who is going to take care of what. It’s easy to figure out who is carrying most of the weight in the house, and it’s also easier to offload some of your tasks on the kids as they get older. (“I’m going to go ahead and take care of the bills, but since I have to go to work to do that, I may need some help with the laundry and dishes.”)
Make it visible.
It’s time to put it up in the house somewhere. Here are some of my recommendations for easy to use chore charts. Make sure it is clear WHO is doing WHAT and HOW OFTEN.
In our house, we are a team. Sure, we will take over someone else’s chores. That’s what we do, but I may or may not have energy to take my kid to something she wants to do I had to pitch in all week on her chores.
(*ahem* be careful with your spouse on that one, buuuut…may also be true…)
Keep this visible, and remember we are modeling a teamwork atmosphere in the house. If you are able, pitch in without question.
What if I have small kids?
If you have little kids, have them start early with small things. For instance, picking up their toys with a timer, or making their bed as they get a “big kid” bed. This will make it much easier as they get older.
Show the eff up imperfectly.
Doing things imperfectly is better than not doing them at all. So, if you forget or struggle, just show up the next day. That’s life and we don’t have to be perfect to get ish done.
Need more tips on juggling it all?